[Relationship]
[Relationship] - Understand women better by nine words they use
Written by madnilk Friday, 24 July 2009 01:14
What are crucial words to be remember when there is a conversation between two different gender. I am going to make this into somewhat relation that so call husband and wife, normal but full of deeper meanings.
This anonymous information was send to me recently, and I'm going to remix it into my own version with much more suitability. Everything below are about knowing what words being use accordingly and how to react with proper care.
Words that women always use to show their true meaning indirectly.
(1) Fine:
This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and
you need to shut up.
(2) Five Minutes:
If she is
getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is
only five minutes
if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the
game before helping
around the house.
(3) Nothing:
This is the
calm before the storm. This means something, and you should
be on your toes.
Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in
fine.
(4) Go Ahead:
This is a dare,
not permission. Don't Do It!
(5) Loud Sigh:
This is
actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often
misunderstood by men. A
loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why
she is wasting her
time standing here and arguing with you about nothing.
(Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)
(6) That's Okay:
This is one of
the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man.
That's okay means she
wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when
you will pay for your
mistake.
(7) Thanks:
A woman is
thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say
you're welcome. (I want to
add in a clause here - This is true, unless she says
'Thanks a lot' - that is
PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say
'you're welcome' .
that will bring on a
'whatever').
(8) Whatever:
Is a woman's
way of saying
F-- YOU!
(9) Don't worry about it, I got it:
Another dangerous
statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told
a man to do several
times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result
in a man asking
'What's wrong?' For the woman's response
refer to # 3.
* Inform this to the men you know, to warn them about arguments they can avoid if they remember the terminology.
* Send this to all the women you know to give them a good laugh, cause they know it's true!!!
p/s: What I really learn is that things can be done smoothly for both husband and wife, if in many other case between man and women - Listen well when one of use talking and take time understand what their meaning before making any form of answering. Either it's on a body language or verbal term of conversations...
[Relationship] - Did I marry the right person?
Written by madnilk Friday, 26 June 2009 21:38
This article was forwarded to me.. Since its crazy wedding season now here in Malaysia, some useful tips for those who just got married, about to get married, planning to get married or who don't even want to get married. Not sure who wrote the article though. But, please read it and make use of this great article that I really want all of you to know.
Something relates with such question being answered within a seminar. A must read:
DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?
During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said,'How
do I know if I married the right person?'
I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, 'It depends. Is that your husband?' In all seriousness, she answered 'How do you know?'
Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.
Here's the answer.
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse / partner . You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit) .
Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love... Because it's happening TO YOU.
People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept of my feet.' Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria (excitement) of love fades..
It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, 'Did I marry the right person?' And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their
unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else.
You could.
And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):
THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't 'find' LASTING love. You have to 'make' it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression 'the labor of love.' Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.
Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage. .
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you
know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. .. you can 'make love'.
Love in marriage is indeed a 'decision'... Not just a feeling.
Remember this always:
'God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.'
[Relationship] - A peanut idea of Charlie Schulz Philosophy
Written by madnilk Tuesday, 05 May 2009 18:43
This one thing have make realize more - the important of love one and people that near to us. Sometimes what we thought important are not that really. All this time we have to acknowledge and mesmerize person that public state as important. As a matter of fact they don't!! Scroll through slowly and read carefully to receive and enjoy full effects.
Below is the philosophy of Charles Schulz, the creator of the 'Peanuts" comic strip.
You don't have to actually answer the questions. Just ponder on them. Read through
and you'll get the point:
- Name the five wealthiest people in the world.
- Name the last five Heisman trophy winners.
- Name the last five winners of the Miss America pageant.
- Name ten people who have won the Nobel or Pulitzer Prize.
- Name the last dozen Academy Award winners for best actor and actress.
- Name the last decade's worth of world series winners.
How did you do?
The point is, none of us remember the headliners of yesterday.
These are no second - rate achievers.
They are the best in their fields.
But the applause dies.
Awards tarnish.
Achievements are forgotten.
Accolades and certificates are buried with their owners.
Here's another quiz. See how you do on this one:
- List a few teachers who aided your journey through school.
- Name three friends who have helped you through a difficult time.
- Name five people who have taught you something worthwhile.
- Think of a few people who have made you feel appreciated and special!!
- Think of five people you enjoy spending time with.
Easier?
The lesson:
The people who make a difference in your life are not the ones with the most credentials, money or awards.They simply are the ones who cares the most.
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